Happiness is an inside job, don't let anyone else take that much power over your life.
Over the past year or so I have changed exponentially as a person. I spent so many years of my life trying to achieve things for other people's happiness; living, reacting and responding to other peoples choices. It wasn't until someone who was incredibly instrumental in a lot of the changes I've made told me that to care for yourself, to prioritise your own happiness and to most importantly love yourself how you wish to be loved by another is not selfish; it is essential for a mentally healthy and fulfilling life.
Recent weeks for me have been difficult. I had university exams (if you've read any of my other more personal blog posts, you can probably make a good guess about how well I coped with this stress), I faced rejection for something which knocked my confidence, and I was disappointed in myself for my fitness efforts, feeling like the progress I am making does not equate to how important the journey is for me. I'm trying to make changes to both my mental and physical strength; something I have feared for a long time. Sometimes it can be hard to admit that where we are is so far from where we want to be, and that thought can be so disheartening. These weeks have felt like a struggle, moving two steps forward, one step back. I have to remember that that is still one step forward. Still one step in the right direction.
I've learnt, and am still learning that you can't compare your beginning to someone else's middle. Where you start from is unique to you and progress no matter how small is progress. Failure is hard. But without it, we wouldn't appreciate success. The hardest part is not the rejection itself, it is getting up and moving forward. Even more recently I learnt that that in itself is strength.
So when you feel so far from your goal and the end seems unreachable, remember only to look back to see how far you've come. I may not be where or who I want to be, but I am far from where and who I once was, and closer to getting there than I was yesterday.
Happiness is totally an inside job! agree x
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DeleteThis is such an inspiring post, I need to remember this more often when I feel like I'm not where I want to be!
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DeleteThank you for this post. What you have written is inspiring and is something that I needed right now and I will use these thoughts to help me get over the problems I have in my life right now.
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DeleteI'm just like this, I find it so hard to have any kind of perspective when things don't go to plan or I'm not dealing with things well. For me, something that helped was cutting out negative people and I to try stop paying attention to stupid little things that don't really matter. It pulls me together and makes me focus on what I'm doing rather than what everyone else is doing - I think when you do that, you realise how much effort you put into things and you reassure yourself as opposed to looking for that assurance elsewhere which can often make you feel worse! I definitely believe that being selfish in your thoughts is probably the easiest way to stay happy and move forward. Such a good post, completely related with this. x
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I've done the same recently, I only invest time into people that actually mean something to me xx
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I'm learning to only compare myself to where I once was and not to other people :) xx
DeleteDon't worry Amy, you'll see the results of your efforts soon :) I feel the same way sometimes.
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Deletewe all face some set-backs in life, i know it sounds so cliche, but i really think that its how we bounce back, and what we learn from them, that truly defines how we grow and establish our futures. keep your head up! you're an amazing person, and thanks for your on-going support with my blog :)
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DeleteI like this post Amy! I know how disheartening it can feel when your hard work doesn't seem to be paying off. But as you said, if you work towards your goals, you are moving forward, even if you're only taking baby steps. And eventually, all the hard work pays off. Good luck with everything, hope the following weeks are a bit easier on you! x
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DeleteThis is such an important and amazing post. I feel like I need to do this myself, I need to tell myself is okay to fight for myself. Thank you for writing it!
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